The Peach

If you have been around me much, or talked to me about, well, anything. I more than likely start any sort of intellectual conversation with the words, “So, I was listening to this Podcast”. Yep. You either love me or you don’t. Oops. So, here we go. I was listening to this podcast recently, and they were talking about this concept of a peach. You could take world class peaches, I am talking the J-Lo level peaches. You follow? And you can make an award winning pie. I am talking 10/10 recommend to a friend and the yelp reviews are insane. Yeah, that level. Best pie ever, on the narrative of multiple peach pie loving consumers. Guess what sweetheart, according to those peach pie lovers, you are great. But honey- some people hate pie. Some people are grossed out by peaches, even allergic to them. Does that make you less desirable in the eyes of the people who love you, are inspired by you, enjoy your company? No girl. But the people who hate peaches… babe- it is not your job to change their minds. You are a peach. Loved by so many. But hated and undesirable to some. But, a peach cannot just change into an apple at will. You are a peach. Own it.

It is not your job to be someone who everyone loves. That is an unrealistic burden to bare. Not possible. I mean. Jesus died. Came back. Wiped our slates clean. And there are still some who choose not to be so keen on the dude. So… what makes you think you can manage to stay one consistent peach, who is able to be pleasing to all. I challenge that. And any peaches out there who have figured it out, a way to make every person love you, without you changing to please all, holla at your girl. I gotta know your secret.

As a recovering and current people pleaser, this is beyond hard for me. I want to be the funniest, most inspirational, fun-loving, tallest, favorite person you have ever came in contact with. If you know me, you know that majority of the previous sentence is not always the truth. Mostly because I am 4’10”, but other reasons as well I am sure. There have been times in my life that I have been hated, genuinely hated by people who have never really met me. Or, they have met me, and hate me for good reason, their reason. Because, guess what. They don’t like peaches. It is not my job to change their pallet friends. And I refuse to masquerade as an apple.

So let me let you off the hook you big juicy peach. You are not going to be someone that everyone likes. Be authentic. This is something I strive for and am getting better at as time goes by and the idea of rejection gets easier. So yeah, I will dance at every single stop light. If I am home alone, or not to be honest, you better believe I drop it like no other while I fold clothes. I am going to say what I want to on my blog. I am going to parent how I see best for my kids. Because, those peaches are mine! I am going to be the best friend I know how. I am going to follow what feels good to me. What makes sense to me. Do I have a moral code- sure. I am a Christian, a monogamous wife, and a habitual FRIENDS watcher. But beyond that. I am going to do what makes sense for my kids, my husband and myself. I want to give you this freedom. Life is way too short to concern yourself with the opinions of others. You will continuously fight to change who you are in the company of others, and you will lose yourself in it.

Be unapologetically yourself. If you are wrong, apologize. If you need to address a flaw you have, address it. Fight to be better every day. But if someone gets annoyed at how much you dance in the car when you are with your best friend Jasmine, those people are not for you. If they get annoyed that you don’t pretend to be holier than you are in different circles, they are not your people. If they don’t like how you are loud and maybe a little immature for someone who is almost 30, they are not your people. So dance when people aren’t watching, dance when people are watching. Make fun of yourself. Laugh loud in public. Make random friends everywhere you go. Trust people, even if it means you get burned. Do not let the world make you jaded or timid. God designed you. You, the peach. There are people in your life right now who need you as a peach, not as a counterfeit apple.

PK the Peach